Alexander (left) and their partner, Mackenzie, at their wedding in 2019. Photo by Syd Cummings

Alexander (left) and their partner, Mackenzie, at their wedding in 2019. Photo by Syd Cummings

Alexander Joseph Muñoz is an actor, writer, and occasional teacher from the Boston area. They are also a lifelong wedding enthusiast.

Trained in improvisation, Shakespeare, playwriting, screenwriting, stage combat, martial arts, rudimentary culinary arts, basic costume design, and whatever they teach at high schools, they come into any situation with a willingness to learn.

When the COVID-19 pandemic disrupted their educational Shakespeare tour, Alexander created an online theatre company to raise money for charities and organizations that needed it. Over several months, HOWL Shakespeare raised thousands of dollars and also allowed actors to sharpen their skills, build their resumes, and network with new contacts during the pandemic.

In spring of 2021, Alexander decided that part of rejoining the world would be to embrace their long-held passion for performance and combine it with their long-held authority to officiate marriages.

Alexander organizing things at their own wedding. Photo by Syd Cummings

Alexander organizing things at their own wedding. Photo by Syd Cummings

Testimonials

 

“Okay so I am not one to be all mushy-gushy, but this is a situation where I kind of can’t help it… Alexander and I met a few years ago while touring around high schools throughout Massachusetts performing Shakespeare for students. We formed an instant connection, based, I think, on mutual admiration, and to this day Alexander is one of the humans nearest and dearest to my heart. Alexander is the kind of person you want on your team. As if it’s not enough that they are extremely witty and talented, they are also just a general pleasure to be around. They are captivating in front of a crowd (and trust me, we toured multiple shows together so I have seen it with my own eyes many times!), and truly a beautiful soul.”

— Kira Patterson. Scholar. Performer. Friend.

 

“Alexander is respectful, perceptive, attentive, hilarious, and, through years of theatre experience, REALLY knows how to work a crowd. They are a whirlwind of talent and charm and brilliance, a real showstopper of a person. And yet, never have I felt upstaged by them, because one of their greatest strengths is knowing exactly when to dim their light so that others may shine. Honestly, if I was ever going to do a whole wedding shebang, I'd hire Alexander in a heartbeat.”

-Jessie Wright. Actor. Classmate. Self described "Human Disaster”.

“There are some life events that are more than celebrations to share with our friends and family, but as sacrements that are grounded in our community values of loyalty, love and trust. Whole villages of volunteer god-parents pledge to help raise and educate village children, and to provide safty and shelter to their village elderly. Extended families gather to witness members of their families pledge their love and loyalty to their prospective life partners and contribute to their communities strength. Always solemn, sometimes light and gay, often funny and warm whether mired in familiar family traditions or unfamiliar traditions harvested from other cultures, every marraige planning process needs a skillfull person to help design a ceremony by listening to the couple's dreams and desires and fitting them into community and family norms. Alexander Joseph Munoz is a kind, empathetic, principled person who has deeply explored differant cultural norms and is able to help a couple design a ceremony that helps the couple express their own uniqueness and joy. They are funny, warm, discrete and easy to work with during one of the most stressful times for any couple and their families.”

— Judy Meredith. Activist. Author. Grandmother.

 
Alexander and Mackenzie’s wedding shoes. Photo by Syd Cummings

Alexander and Mackenzie’s wedding shoes. Photo by Syd Cummings

“It is with utmost joy and confidence that I recommend Alexander to officiate any ceremony. Alexander is an outstanding individual: unforgettable and unique, with the most profound ability to allow others around them to shine. Alexander possesses a soulful nature and a bright intellect. Their deep sincerity will respect the gravity of your occasion, while their keen wit and eloquence will highlight the people at the heart of the gathering. I cannot recommend them enough!”

-Elizabeth Loranth. Actor. Historical Re-Enactor. Enthusiast.

Photo by Syd Cummings

Photo by Syd Cummings

Alexander’s Wedding Vows

 

Alexander and their partner Mackenzie were married on June 22, 2019.

The following is Alexander’s self-written vows in their entirety.

 

“I always struggled with the idea of unconditional love.
I don’t think I understood what it was supposed to mean.
I thought it was a bar to reach, or total forgiveness of any flaw. I thought it was an active decision, a rose tinted glass.
I don’t think that anymore.
Over the past six years I’ve learned that unconditional love is not ‘I will love you no matter what you do’, but rather ‘you don’t need to prove anything to me’.
In short, unconditional love is not difficult.
Communication can be difficult. Individual days can be difficult. Organizing a party for a hundred guests on a Saturday in June is difficult. But the love itself, that is very, very easy.
When writing this, I wanted so much to make some grand gesture. To tie together a collection of allusions and oaths and visions of the future. But I couldn’t think of anything to sum up who you are, who we are, more than this one promise:

You do not, will never, ever need to prove anything to me.”